Illusion is mis-perceived reality, personal love is how we try to compensate for this mis-perception. We must be loving, we have to love one another, love is the answer, all these concepts about love are really the consolation prize, not the real thing. If one truly understands emptiness, compensation is no longer required. When we know without a doubt that all that is transient is not it, we no longer worry about loving or not loving, we’re no longer happy or sad, we’re at peace, we’ve gone beyond labels and expectations into trust, we’ve gone from identifying with a self whose perception perserves duality to merging with source and recognizing perfection.
“When you realize how perfect everything is you will tilt your head back and laugh at the sky”
When we realize the perfection of what is, personal love becomes unnecessary, we no longer look for love because nothing is missing, we no longer need to compensate, what we were looking for is found and it’s the whole universe. Personal love is union, it’s trying to make two one, so once we understand absolute oneness union is no longer even possible, and personal love disappears. We surrender every moment to the universe, with complete trust we participate openly.
Sometimes the moment asks us to be tender, soft, malleable, sometimes the moment asks us to be strong and unyielding, there is no decision about this, we just are. We can’t predetermine what is required, and there is no need to. Once we understand emptiness, we remain empty, there is no need to fill ourselves back up with concepts, we remain empty so we are open to whatever the universe asks of us.
In essence understanding our own emptiness creates space for source to engage us, a full pitcher is useless. We’re afraid of what the universe will ask of us, so we reassure ourselves with stories of love, but we don’t need to be afraid, we don’t need the stories, it’s our own confusion about love that creates suffering, source isn’t confused about love so the degree to which we surrender to what is, is the degree we end our own suffering.
“He who loves 50 people has 50 woes; he who loves no one has no woes.”
When we love someone we’re trying to make ourselves whole or them whole, personal love arises from a perceived lack, causes problems, and ends in problems, as we let go of the self that perceives duality the sense of incompleteness fades too. there is no longer a need for personal love, no one is special, people are no longer looked at as a fix or needing to be fixed, every person is recognized as source. This isn’t about loving versus hating, it’s about residing in source, resting in peace, we may like liver or we may not, it doesn’t matter, liver doesn’t need love, and neither do you or anyone else because there is no separation so there is no need, personal love is a compensation for feeling separate, when you look at anyone or anything and think they need love, realize it is you that needs love, it’s you that feels separate. If you believe the universe lacks anything, love or otherwise, realize it’s your own sense of separation that causes this perception.
“‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ The entire law and all the demands of the prophets are based on these two commandments.”
Jesus also encouraged us to give up personal love for something greater. Even the love we have for our families changes, it’s no longer love based on fear, on insecurities, but rooted in source and it’s not filled with worry and concern, but abiding peace that extends beyond family without discrimination. So don’t be confused when someone says love is all there is, it doesn’t mean that life is all rainbows, flowing hearts and sunshine, it’s recognizing there’s no need, no compensation is needed, questions about loving or not don’t even arise because Source takes care of it.