My barn having burned to the ground, I can now see the moon.— Japanese poet Masahidet
Such a simple idea, but it encapsulates suffering in life perfectly. It’s in life that we begin the process of uncovering our true nature as formless potential, and suffering is a forceful motivation to begin this process. Somewhat like childbirth, a 9 month process including discomfort, pain and suffering, which is soon forgotten when the fruit of that labor arrives.
So any time you experience suffering, take it as an opportunity to understand yourself better. The beginning and the end of suffering occurs in your own mind, you are both the source and the cure. So the pain of losing a loved one turns into suffering when we refuse to let go of the loss. The pain of self-hate turns to suffering when we refuse to forgive ourselves. The pain we experience when the people around us disappoint becomes suffering if we refuse to relinquish control. Pain is an experience, like any experience, it comes and goes depending on circumstance, it turns into suffering when we identify with it, and refuse to let it go.